Dating Advice for Women: What Actually Works
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Dating doesn’t have to be complicated.
Here’s what actually works.
Know your worth first
Before dating:
- Know who you are
- Know what you want
- Know what you deserve
- Know your boundaries
- Know your standards
Not:
- Looking for someone to complete you
- Needing validation from dating
- Compromising your values
- Lowering your standards
- Losing yourself
Set clear standards
Have standards for:
- How you’re treated
- Communication
- Respect
- Consistency
- Effort
Not:
- Perfection
- Unrealistic expectations
- Games
- Mind-reading
- Perfection
Standards protect you.
They’re not about:
- Being picky
- Being difficult
- Being unrealistic
- Being too much
They’re about:
- Knowing your worth
- Protecting your peace
- Not settling
- Building something real
Communicate clearly
Do this:
- Say what you mean
- Ask for what you want
- Express your needs
- Set boundaries
- Be direct
Not:
- Playing games
- Testing them
- Making them guess
- Being passive-aggressive
- Hoping they’ll figure it out
Clear communication:
- Saves time
- Prevents misunderstandings
- Shows confidence
- Builds trust
- Creates connection
Watch for red flags
Red flags include:
- Inconsistent behavior
- Not respecting boundaries
- Making you feel bad about yourself
- Not showing up
- Disrespect
- Not taking responsibility
- Blaming you for their behavior
Not red flags:
- Being human
- Having flaws
- Not being perfect
- Having a bad day
- Making mistakes
Trust your intuition
If something feels off:
- It probably is
- Don’t ignore it
- Don’t make excuses
- Don’t give too many chances
- Trust yourself
Your intuition:
- Knows what you need
- Sees what you don’t want to see
- Protects you
- Guides you
- Is usually right
Don’t lose yourself
While dating:
- Keep your life
- Keep your friends
- Keep your interests
- Keep your boundaries
- Keep your standards
Not:
- Dropping everything for them
- Changing who you are
- Losing your friends
- Abandoning your interests
- Compromising your values
The bottom line
Dating advice that works:
- Know your worth
- Set clear standards
- Communicate clearly
- Watch for red flags
- Trust your intuition
- Don’t lose yourself
It’s not about:
- Playing games
- Being perfect
- Finding someone to complete you
- Losing yourself
- Settling
It’s about:
- Building something real
- Knowing your worth
- Not settling
- Being yourself
- Finding someone who adds to your life
That’s what actually works.